Spend time thinking about your own feelings. What about this girl attracts you? Why do you feel the way you do? What are your feelings for this girl — romantic, friendly, confused? Take some time to think about what you want out of your relationship so you can have a clearer idea of what to so. Here are some other important recommendations:

  • Take some time to get to know her. Find out some things you have in common, and things you don’t. Things you agree about, and things you don’t. You and her could end up liking the same thing, and not even have had the slightest clue because she’s been hiding it so well.


  • Prepare what you want to say. Think about your feelings and find a way to say them. You might write down a few lines, get together a quick “practice line,” or rehearse the conversation in the mirror.


  • Pick a time and place you are comfortable in. Make this as easy on yourself as possible by making yourself feel good.


  • Pick a spot that you know well to ease any nervousness or talkative. Good spots generally have few people, are quiet, and are easy to get to naturally. Don’t make a big spectacle by asking her to follow you to a romantic spot. A quiet hallway or corner after school is just as good a spot to talk about your feelings as any other.